Shattering the Lies That Shaped You

 

Some lies don’t just appear out of nowhere.

They take root early....sometimes in the shadows of childhood abuse, in the long silence of neglect, or in the constant criticism that made you question your worth. Others form later, after heartbreak, betrayal, or seasons of deep loss.

When we go through trauma, especially when we're younger....our hearts are like soft clay. The words and actions of others leave marks.  Some of them are beautiful, but some of them are jagged and painful. As time goes on, those jagged marks can harden into beliefs about ourselves that God never intended.

Have you told yourself any of these lies?

• “They're going to leave anyway. I’m not worth loving.” (from abuse, abandonment, rejection)

• “I always ruin everything. Nothing ever goes right for me.” (from growing up in chaos or criticism)

• “I’ll never be good enough and I'll never fit in.” (from constant comparison or neglect)

• “If people really knew me, they’d leave.” (from shame or secrets)

• “I’m damaged beyond repair. I'm never going to get over this.” (from long-term pain or betrayal)

We may not say these out loud, but a lot of times, they run like background music in our minds....shaping how we see ourselves, how we interact with others, and sadly.... we even believe this is how GOD sees us.  

In order to destroy a lie, we MUST know what the truth is!

1. Lie: “I’m not worth loving.”
   Truth: The LORD hath appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee. -Jeremiah 31:3 
   God’s love isn’t based on how lovable you feel.....it’s eternal and unshakable.

2. Lie: “Everything is my fault.”
   Truth: The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit. - Psalm 34:18
   God draws near to the hurting....not to heap blame on them, but to save and heal.

3. Lie: “I’ll never be good enough.”
   Truth: For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them. - Ephesians 2:10
   God doesn’t make mistakes. You were designed with purpose before you took your first breath.

4. Lie: “If people really knew me, they’d leave.”
   Truth: …I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.- Hebrews 13:5b 
   God knows everything about you.....and still chooses to stay. He even died for YOU... knowing what things would look like in your life. 

5. Lie: “I’m damaged beyond repair.”
   Truth: …to appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness - Isaiah 61:3 
   God specializes in restoration. Your story doesn’t end with the damage...you are being rebuilt.

The lies we believe after trauma don’t just quietly linger.....they dig deep and form strongholds in our minds. These strongholds trap us, twisting our thoughts and emotions, making it harder to break free from shame, fear, and false identity.

But God’s Word has the power to demolish every stronghold (2 Corinthians 10:4–5). 

The battle for your mind is real, but it’s NOT unwinnable!

The key is to replace them daily with God’s truth. When the lie rises up, answer it with scripture.....OUT LOUD. Trauma has trained your mind to believe the worst about yourself; the Word of God retrains it to believe what is true.

So, you may have been shaped by trauma, but you are NOT defined by it. The labels others gave you are nothing compared to the name God calls you...

He calls you 

Beloved. 

Redeemed. 

Chosen.

The enemy may try to hinder you and destroy you by whispering, “You’re always going to be broken,” but God’s Word declares in John 8:36, “If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.

Your past is a chapter......not the whole story. 

And the Author of your life still holds the pen!