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PRIDE SERIES - Hidden Contempt Camouflaged as Sarcasm

**SEE DISCLAIMER AT END OF POST** 

Beneath sarcasm, there's often a bitter root that fuels a mocking, critical, or sarcastic spirit and at it's very core is the spirit of pride.... laced with unforgiveness and resentment.  

So what does this look like?
    - Joking at someone's expense in family or friend settings
    - Constant teasing of one person or personality trait
    - Laughing about trauma and dysfunction instead of addressing it and halting it
    - Mocking someone's effort to change or grow
    - Passive-aggressive jabs wrapped in humor

These things are often justified as:
    -"We're just joking around! Learn to take a joke!"
    -"That's just how our family is!"

Contempt is born from unforgiveness.  Sarcasm becomes a safe way to express contempt without admitting the pain behind it.  So.....instead of saying "you hurt me and I haven't healed," the spirit of pride says "I'll keep myself elevated by making fun of you."

    * It creates emotional distance camouflaged as humor.
    * It exalts itself by diminishing others.
    * It makes confession or vulnerability nearly impossible.

"Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sin." - Proverbs 10:12

"A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit." - Proverbs 154

People who mock others do so because they're trying to AVOID THEIR OWN SHAME. They are projecting hidden wounds....especially IDENTITY WOUNDS (unhealed trauma) .... and sarcasm becomes their armor.  

"But he that hideth hatred with lying lips, and he that uttereth slander is a fool." - Proverbs 10:18

"The proud have had me greatly in derision: yet have I not declined from thy law." -Psalm 119:51

If you have been in the midst of this, you may have wondered what it would look like if they stopped joking and just got serious.  Well......you would be able to feel the tension!  The joking is an EMOTIONAL DECOY!

Sarcasm becomes the primary language of interaction.  Children are raised to move, tease, and "playfully insult" each other as "the norm".  Paving the way to weak emotional security and a belief that love is conditional.

GENERATIONAL CONTEMPT LOOKS LIKE FAMILY BONDING!

It's NOT bonding! It's BITTERNESS BECOMING SYSTEMIC!  

"But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another." - Galatians 5:15


It's always important to SELF-REFLECT!  Ask God to reveal to you roots that may be so deep that you aren't even aware of them.  Ask God to show you if you have any hidden contempt.
HE IS FAITHFUL AND WILL REVEAL!  He REVEALS to HEAL!








**DISCLAIMER**

I don't want to be misunderstood and make it sound like all sarcasm is pride.  And .....I don't want to create the idea that HUMOR is bad......there is a difference between HUMOR and SARCASM.  I'm trying to show that sarcasm is rarely just about humor. It's a camouflage for deeply seeded issues....deeper spirits. 

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